If you are experiencing problems in your relationship, due to your own addiction or your partner’s addiction, couple counselling can be very helpful.
When you or someone you care about has addictive behaviours, communication can easily break down. Feelings of anger, fear, and defensiveness often cover the love you have for each other, and can leave you feeling unfulfilled, confused, unloved or even hopeless.
In couple counselling, the two of you will learn new communication tools, such as active listening and reflecting. This will ensure that you are both accurately hearing what the other is saying. You will also learn how to give feedback to each other without raising your voice, expressing hostility or communicating in a disrespect way.
This will help you experience more honest and heartfelt communication with each other, leading to more love and respect in your relationship.
Being able to speak your truth to your partner in a safe and non-judgemental environment can make all the difference in your relationship. Tensions between you ease as you realize you will not be judged or talked down to when you say what is on your mind.
I will act as an objective mediator and interpreter, assisting both of you to speak from your hearts and listen to each other respectfully.
Length of Sessions:
Couple counselling sessions are one hour in length, unless otherwise negotiated. At the beginning, it is best to commit to coming once a week in order to start practicing the skills you are learning in the sessions.
Length of Therapy:
As with individual sessions, the length of couple therapy will depend on the issues you have come to heal. Together we will assess the extent of the harm that has already been done to your relationship. We will then find solutions and work to rebuild the trust between you.
Mark’s Sobriety Saves His Relationship
Candace can’t change the fact that I am an alcoholic, but as an addict with long-term recovery herself, she has the understanding that I needed, as well as the professional knowledge and skill to help me begin my recovery from my addiction. I have been able to increase my self-awareness, personal development and ability to care for myself.
This has, without a shadow of a doubt, saved my relationship with my girlfriend because it has brought my self-respect back. She is beginning to trust me again, and we are talking about getting married and having children. I no longer feel like I have to hide what I am feeling from her, so that means I can be much more present in our life together.
I fully recommend that you talk to Candace if you think you have a problem with alcohol, drugs or other addictions, and I also fully recommend Candace for couple counselling. She has helped my partner and me to salvage our relationship, something we were really not sure we would be able to do.