The Truth about Bullying – And What We Can Do about It

Pink Shirt Day will soon be upon us. On February 25th, we are being encouraged to wear something pink to unite us in working together to prevent bullying in our schools, in our communities, and online. I’m very glad to know that we, as a society, are continuing to take this issue seriously—it affects more people every day than we could ever know.

Bullying has likely been around since the beginning of time. It has always been an integral part of the concept of survival of the fittest in the animal world, and we humans have been pitting ourselves against each other in aggressive ways for a very long time, in a variety of ways. However, with the advent of the Internet and all its many forms of social media, we are now privy to what is going on in people’s psyches and lives in a much deeper, more obvious way.

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Addiction and Relapse: A “Normal, Expected” Part of Recovery?

Have you ever noticed that the same issue sometimes bombards us from all angles for a while? It’s funny how life seems to come in themes.

Lately I’ve been receiving a number of articles into my inbox, talking about addicts who relapse after they come out of treatment—or even after many years of sobriety. Most of these writers are telling me that relapse is a ‘normal part of recovery’ from addiction. Some are even trying to differentiate between a lapse and a relapse, as if that jargon matters or is important. Basically, they’re saying that relapse is to be expected—and that we should not be too surprised or upset by it.

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Lassana Bathily – A True Hero

Just like everyone else in the free world, I’ve been increasingly disturbed about what’s going on. I, too, feel worried and apprehensive, with so many questions and very few answers. Mostly I wonder about how these atrocities could have gone on for so long now, with no one putting a stop to them. I’m wondering how much longer our politicians and world leader believe they can continue to assuage us with what now feel like empty words, such as, “We will catch them and make them pay.”

“Pay”? What does that really mean anyway? Could there possibly be any consequences that would actually be appropriate for the horrors these gruesome bullies of the world are inflicting upon others as we speak? Considering that they want to ‘die as martyrs,’ even death seems to be little incentive to them. I can’t help but wonder—what will it take?

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How to Enjoy the Holidays When You or Your Loved One Has an Addiction

15213920_sAnother year has gone by and “The Holidays” are fast approaching – although if you’re anything like me, you’re still wondering where September went!

The time has come when we are once again seeing commercials on TV and in magazines about how wonderful the Christmas season is, that it is better to give than to receive, and how warm and loving families are, especially at this time of year.

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Violence Against Women: Can We Really Be Shocked by Jian Ghomeshi?

Jian GhomeshiJian Ghomeshi is one charismatic guy.

He’s been revered as attractive, popular, successful, a ladies’ man—until now. Now we see that this man, nearly 50 years of age, has been thinking and acting like a spoiled child who totally believes the world revolves around him—and that he is completely entitled to have all of his needs met, sexual and otherwise.

Now, he is a man reviled. But I have to wonder why we, as a society, are shocked by his behaviour. Personally, I am more surprised that we are so surprised!

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