Is your addiction making your life miserable?
Would you like to overcome your “addictive behaviours” and get your life back on track?
Addictive behaviours can cause chaos in your life.
Most people use addictions to try to get away from their life problems. But if you are struggling with an addiction, the very issues you are running from will only become more of a problem as the days go by.
Addictions can cause:
- relationships to become more stressful
- job performance to suffer
- escalation of financial difficulties
- your self-esteem to head in a downhill spiral
Addiction can make your entire life feel overwhelming.
As you continue your use of addictive behaviours, the emotional cycle of confusion, frustration, and fear also becomes worse. You probably know you don’t want to live this way anymore, but you may feel helpless to stop your self-sabotaging patterns.
Jessica Overcomes Her Pot Addiction
And Her Whole Life Changes
I went to Candace because I had been addicted to weed for around 10 years (I’d been smoking it for more than 20 years). I’d tried to quit a few times previously but I always started up again. I wanted to quit for good because it was ruining my life.
I will be eternally grateful to Candace for helping me understand why I smoked and for helping me work on some deeper issues whose impact on my life I hadn’t been able to comprehend on my own. I had a few other “addictions” as well, such as treating other people like garbage, and hating myself. Candace got me out of the vicious spiral I was in by helping me understand why I was acting and thinking the way I was. Thanks to Candace, I don’t hate myself anymore, and I don’t treat people like garbage anymore. I’ve also been clean from weed for a year.
Candace didn’t say much when I was with her, but she is incredibly skilled at asking pointed questions that led me to new understandings of myself (and also my family members). I often resisted the questions at first, but when I went home those questions kept niggling in the back of my mind and suddenly – Ohhhhhh! Once I understood what was actually going on in my head, then I was able to change my thought patterns, attitude, and behaviour.
I cannot overstate this: Candace is a brilliant therapist who knows exactly what she is doing and she will help you make better choices (even if you don’t see some things as a “choice”). She’s not cheap but, as I discovered by trying out different therapists, you get what you pay for in this field. And hey, how much is your mental health worth? Frankly, she’s cheaper than the weed I was smoking. I was on the verge of losing my job, ruining the few friendships that I had left, dropping out of school, and basically going insane. Candace saved my life which, thanks to her, I now value. I would recommend her to anybody who is struggling with life.
The most common addictive behaviours include:
- Substance abuse (alcohol and other drugs such as cocaine, crack, heroin, marijuana, crystal meth, Ecstacy, etc.)
- Eating Disorders (over-eating, under-eating, anorexia, bulimia)
- Relationship addiction (a pattern of putting other people’s needs ahead of your own, choosing partners who are emotionally unavailable, staying in relationships that are not meeting your needs)
- Smoking and Nicotine addiction (cigarettes, cigars, pipe tobacco)
- Gambling addiction (casinos, poker games, bingo, etc)
- Internet addiction (spending endless hours on the internet, becoming glued to the screen, playing all-consuming video games, spending time at inappropriate sites)
- Compulsive shopping/overspending (a pattern of impulsively buying things you don’t really need, spending too much money, credit card debt, shoplifting)
If you can relate to any of the above and would like to break free from the heavy grip of addiction, please read on.
Overcoming Marijuana Addiction:
Susannah’s Healing Journey
I have had the good fortune of having Candace as a support in my life and healing process over the past several years.
I first went to see Candace when I was experiencing severe anxiety. I was also dealing with addiction to marijuana, using pot and alcohol on a regular basis. Candace helped me to understand that in order to stop using mind-altering substances, I had to understand why I felt I needed them.
As we worked together, Candace offered positive reinforcement for each step I took as I became clean and faced many of my fears. One huge challenge for me was around returning to school and furthering my education. I am proud to say that I am now a full-time student with very good grades.
Through Candace’s guidance, insight and counselling I have not used pot for seven years. I feel very grateful because without her support I know I would not be where I am now in my life. My relationships with my family and friends are much healthier now, and my confidence in myself has increased a lot. I feel like I can accomplish whatever I set my mind to, and I have begun to enjoy the challenges life hands me.
If you’re like the majority of people with addictive behaviours, it’s likely that you may be experiencing:
- shame and guilt
- fear and hopelessness
- deep sadness and depression
- frustration and helplessness
If you are struggling with any addictive behaviours, such as misuse of mind-altering substances, eating disorders, problem gambling, internet misuse, or compulsive spending, YOU HAVE COME TO THE RIGHT PLACE!
Joanna’s Transformation: From the Depths of Darkness to a University Degree, Fulfilling Work, and a Healthy Relationship
Looking back at some of the darkest moments in my life, it is hard to imagine how I got to where I am today.
When I first met Candace, I was in my early twenties and struggling with debilitating anxiety. I was also quite good at self-harm, more or less killing myself with hard drugs and by staying in a physically and emotionally abusive relationship.
My anxiety kept me isolated and I literally had to relearn everything about myself, including how to function in the world at the most basic level. I remember once telling Candace that all I looked forward to in my day, or all I was really capable of doing at that time, was having a cup of tea by the window in my bedroom.
Had it not been for Candace’s support and genuine care for my well-being, in addition to my strong inner will to turn my life around (and perhaps a guardian angel), I would not be living the full life that I have today. I am now strong and healthy, work full-time, and have completed a few college certificates and a university degree. I am also now married and expect to have children in the near future.
My life is not perfect nor is it pain free. There are still issues that I must deal with and some days are definitely harder than others. But through working with Candace, what I have learned is that it is vital to surround myself with supportive people in order to grow and better myself as a person. Today I want to do the very best I can as I continue on my unique journey.
As a therapist with over 20 years of experience in the Addictions Counselling field, I can help you re-connect to that place inside of you that is yearning to be healthy in all areas of your life.
I can help you identify the addictive and compulsive behaviours that have been damaging your sense of self-esteem, and teach you how to make the necessary changes to develop healthier responses to life.
Here are some of THE BENEFITS you can achieve from Addictions Counselling:
- Positive and healthy relationships with the people in your life
- Sobriety from mind-altering substances
- A more accurate and positive body-image
- Improved emotional and physical health
- More time, energy, and money to spend on the activities you enjoy
- Setting appropriate boundaries, such as saying “No” when we mean “No”
- Finding time for healthy self-care without feeling stress and guilt
- Letting go of perfectionism
- Increased self-respect and self-trust
- A satisfying and rewarding career
I was thinking of you today. I am watching a series called Six Feet Under, and one of the characters applies for a counselling job at an inner city clinic. The HR Director tells her ‘you have to be in a strong place’ to be able to survive there.
That’s exactly how I feel right now. I feel like I am in a strong place. My level of self awareness is extremely high, I recognize unhealthy behaviour early in the thought process, way before it could ever get to action. I feel my emotions, all of them. I can recognize them and say hello to them, instead of acting out to distract myself from the discomfort of them.
I am sure you must have had this experience before but I want to tell you anyway. I was a lost soul, headed in the wrong direction. Please add me to the list of people you have in your mind when you ask yourself if you have made a difference in this world. It’s not just me you affected, it’s my family, friends, and people I look after at work.
We have come a long way in our work together!
Yes, you CAN change your addictive behaviours!
Yes, you CAN heal the wounds that are keeping you entrenched in old, useless, and destructive patterns.
Your Next Steps:
If you have tried to rid yourself or your loved one of an addiction without success, perhaps you are ready to try something different. If so, here are your next steps:
- Call me for a free 15-minute telephone consultation at
604-677-5876, or you can email me.
- Get my free report, “7 Tips for Outsmarting Your Addiction.”Sign up for my free newsletter, Overcoming Your Addictive Behaviours, and receive your free report now:
My office is located in Vancouver, BC, Canada. I provide therapy and counselling services for the Greater Vancouver area including Vancouver, Burnaby, Richmond, North Vancouver and West Vancouver.